The FairField Center uses this checklist to give ideas about common topics discussed and rectified in divorce mediation. Not every agreement will include arrangements on each of the listed points, as some topics may not apply to your situation. However, the more prepared you are (even bringing copies of W2s, check stubs, bills, debts, retirement funds, etc.), the more efficient your mediation will be.
Information
- Complete names
- Date of marriage and date of separation
- Names and birth dates of children
- Social Security numbers of clients and children.
Decision Making & Communication for the Children
- Legal custody
- Medical treatment & emergencies
- Educational plans / progress
- Childcare plans
- Extracurricular activities
- Discipline problems
- Religious training
- Travel plans
- Communication standards as parents
Time with the Children
- Physical custody plan
- Holidays / special days
- Vacation plans
- Extended family visitation
- Changes to plans
- Telephone contact
- Parental behavior standards
- Relocation / move
Child Support and Expenses
- Payment amount, method and time
- Special expenses or needs
- Health insurance
- Unreimbursed medical expenses
- Child support review
- Life insurance beneficiaries
- Tax exemptions
- Vocational / college expenses
Spousal Expenses
- Spousal support
- Health insurance
- Educational / vocational training
Property and Debts
- House / land / expenses
- Household furnishings
- Motor vehicles / insurance
- Savings / checking accounts
- Consumer debt / credit cards
- Future debt responsibilities
Special Resources and Issues
- Retirement / pension funds
- Life insurance
- Tax filing / refunds – liabilities
- Investments / stocks
- Business assets / liabilities
- Inheritance
- Bankruptcy
Other Topics
- Reconciliation consequences
- Relationship / dating expectations
- Intent of agreement
- Filing for divorce
- Incorporating agreement into decree
- Legal expenses
- Name change
- Full disclosure / existing court orders
- Disagreement in future